worrywart

Do we ever stop worrying about our kids?

I am always worrying! I want my kids to be happy and successful. But what does that mean? Tobyn is really small and I am always worrying that he gets picked on, that he can't do what other kids his age can do and that he passes just under the radar and doesn't get noticed for his achievements. At his school they get certificates in assemblies, Tobyn hasn't got a certificate since the 2nd term LAST year. He isn't a bad kid, he doesn't do naughty things but he also doesn't do fantastically. He is very smart but he only does just enough to get by. I don't know how to incourage him to work harder. He isn't physical AT ALL, but he does try hard, yet he gets treated like a 6 year old. He is playing cricket over the summer and has been put in the youngest team with the 5, 6 and 7 year olds......he is 9! I worry that this will only make him think it is OK to be immature. How will he learn to behave his age if he keeps getting treated like he is youn ger than he actually is/

This now brings me to Isaac. Isaac was 2 months prem and weighed only 998gms. He is monitored by the paediatrician and the developmental therapist. We also get the PAFT (parents as first teachers) teacher in every month. Yesterday he had his 2 year old check with his PAFT teacher. She is really impresed with him, she thinks he is very highly intelligent (though can you tell that at such an early age?) anyway, he passed the 2 year old mile stones with flying colours on her chart. His language is that of a 3 year old, his physical ability is well developed and his cognitive skills match for a 2 year old. Makes a Mum feel good and very proud. Then today I took him for his 2 year old developmental check......I came away feeling unsure of his development. He was very shy, did the quiet talking, rocking his feet onto the side of his shoes (which I have not seen him do before0 and wasn't very focused. He started off with the tests really well. He built a tower of 8 blocks when they only expect them to do 6, he put a series of small cylindrical blocks into there holes in very quick time and it seemed to go down hill. She wanted him to point at objects in a book, he would look at the object but not point. She had a baby doll without any clothes on and wanted him to comb the babies hair, he didn't want anything to do with the naked baby, kept pushing it away. She had a puzzle with a circle, square and triangle, he got the circle in no problem, but couldn't put the others in the right hole. But he did really well with matching colours. She started with 3 colours to match to 3 coloured circles, no problem, then she had 5 colours and he had to match them. He started off by putting the red no the black and then got all the others right, when it came to the black circle he knew to move the red one and put the black one in the right place. He di very well physically, great walking and running, climbing and kicking. I am not qualified to know what the outcome is but I am worried...I WANT to know NOW. She showed some concern that he wasn't concentrating very well. He had his own agenda at times. But I guess he isn't quite 2. He could still need his age adjusting, I know there is research that says that can be up to 5. He didn't do some things there that he can do at home. I hope we get the results soon so I can stop being a WORRYWART!!!

I love my boys so much and just want the best for them. I see so much potential and I want others to see that as well. There young lives go by so fast and I hope that we are guiding them in the right direction.